C’mon own up, when was the last time you clicked on those dirty Web sites and had your vicarious thrills by seeing men and women dressed in nothing other than harnesses, doing things to each other that can give any normal pervert a chill down his or her spine. You may raise your eyebrows in disgust, but in heart of hearts you do sometimes get tempted to try out things for yourself. And it is not only you lusty lads and dirty old men out there, it is also the oh-so-propah respectable ladies, who pine for such titillation.

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you’re not one of them and swear that you don’t even think of indulging in such filthy deeds. Well, no offense meant. But frankly, don’t you think it’s time to let go of your prudery about “this sick stuff people do with whips and whipped creams and stuff” and infuse some excitement into your love life gone limp. Read on and give a boost, if not to your sex life, then to your knowledge, about this bizarre form of entertainment.

BDSM defined

So what is BDSM? Simply stated it is an acronym for Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, and Sadomasochism. You may be surprised to know that these so called perversions come quite naturally to most, since some people naturally crave to be submissive and some dominant. If you ?ust take a look at your own sex lives, you’ll be surprised to find that you’ve already tried out some elements of BDSM without even being aware of it. Remember, how you shuddered and ended up in a heap, when your partner blindfolded you and traced the contours of your body with a feather or an ice cube? Welcome to the warped and weird world of BDSM.

Many of you may be relating BDSM only to hardcore sadism or masochism, but the truth is that it can also be remarkably subtle, highly erotic and psychologically charged. It may not even involve sex or sexualtension! It is more of a power game, where one person agrees to submit to another to act out a fantasy. It is driven more by the needs of the submissive than by those of the dominant. And, in this game, the roles of the dominants and submissives are also not fixed and can be interchanged. You may be surprised to know that male submissives actually outnumber the female ones! Talk about role reversal!

BDSM isn’t abuse

But, before you set out to explore the realm of this pain-giving pleasure (or is it pleasure-giving pain?), it’s important to know, at the very outset, that BDSM isn’t abuse. An abuser has no regard for the feelings, needs or limits of the victim, whereas in BDSM each partner is a willing one and has a say in whatever is done to him or her. Also, the victim of abuse is not at liberty to dictate the abusers actions or set limits to it, whereas BDSM caters to the needs and desires of those being dominated. For example, flogging isn’t what you imagine it’d be like. For the most part, it’s more stimulating than painful.

Choose your own fantasy

The good part aboutBDSM is that it’s only limited by your imagination. There are countless ways in which you can en?oy inflicting pain on others or suffering delightful discomfiture yourself. If you think that inflicting or suffering pain isn’t your idea of enjoyment, think again. Remember those agonizing deep body massages, where you all but cry and tears of ?oy roll down your cheeks in painful relief? You don’t quit and in the end it proves so gratifying that you continue to come back for more. Same is the case with BDSM, which gets you so much sexually aroused that this kind of stimulation becomes fun and keeps you begging for more.

BDSM encompasses many wildly different practices and some really curious beliefs. But essentially, it gives you an opportunity to challenge your boundaries and test your limits. In the strictest sense, BDSM involves role-playing, where you may be dominant and your partner submissive or vice versa. This allows you to act out scenarios that are highly charged, psychologically and totallygratifying, physically. However, there’re a few who don’t opt for the dominant or submissive roles, as they don’t get turned on by being tied up or by bossing their partners, or such other stuff. But they still enjoy their own version of BDSM fantasies. So, the important thing to know is that there is nothing known as proper BDSM. It is what you en?oy.

Safety firstand always

There’s no denying the fact that BDSM involves a controlled consensual minor abuse of the body, so it’s always better to be safe than sorry. To cross the limit in the throes of ecstasy will not only lead to in?uries, it may also dampen your partner’s interest. So, you must follow a few safety tips before you queer the pitch for your partner. After all, you do want him or her to come back for more, don’t you?

Give a hint of your intended action: Springing a surprise can be fun and may add to the pleasure of both, but youdon’t want to shock your partner with something that he or she may hate. Although, you don’t need to necessarily give away your exact plans, it is always safe to throw in a hint of what’s coming and how. Slow and steady wins the race: There’s a need to consider your every move deliberately for realizing your fantasy. And it requires preparation, both mental and physical. Don’t be hasty in things you haven’t tried yet. It requires some time to master the techniques and to start enjoying them. For example, don’t immediately jump into the bed with your partner ?ust after reading this article! Agree upon a ‘stop’ word: “Please stop. No. Stop. Puleez. God, no. Oooh!…” Don’t you just get turned on by your partner’s whimpering and pleading for mercy? That’s why the word stop and no doesn’t qualify for stopping the act, when your partner actually wants you to. For you wouldn’t know if he or she actually means it! So, it’s a safe bet to agree upon a word or some action (remember, your partner may be gagged) that the submissive can use, when he or she doesn’t want you to go ahead with what you’re doing.

Enough can be a good enough word and thumping the bed or the floor with hands or feet can be a convenient indication to stop the proceedings, much like what the wrestlers do. Contingency planning: Just imagine, you excitedly pick up a pair of handcuffs from your box of naughty toys and slip them on your partner’s wrists. As you set about your business, you suddenly realize, “Heck! Where’re the keys?” and, at that very moment, someone knocks on the door! To avoid such awkward situations, always have some important stuff handy, like a pair of scissors, a knife or a blade to cut ropes or bandages. They should be safe enough to use in a hurry, if you’re required to release your partner quickly. And don’t forget to locate the keys first, before you use those handcuffs!

Games dominants and submissives play

Now let us come down to the brass tacks. What do you actually do? Out ofalmost limitless possibilities, there’re some really exciting ones that you can safely introduce into your sex life. These love games can work for both, whether you are male dominant and female submissive or the other way round. Let us see them one by one and learn what they have to offer:

The arousing ice: Ice remains an all time favorite that has even been used by lesser mortals practicing normal sex! This great all-purpose sex toy and can be used in a number of ways. One time-tested method is to run an ice cube over your partner’s body, preferably if he or she is blindfolded and bound. Another way is to place it in your mouth and run your lips and tongue over your partner’s body. For a more imaginative play, make an ice dildo in the refrigerator and enjoy vaginal or anal play. Ice cream moulds may come in handy here! The bewitching brush: Well, did you know that a brush can be used effectively to make your partner come? All you need to do is to blindfold and tie him or her up. Now, first taking the soft shaving or painting brush, begin by stroking the breasts, nipples, thighs and the sides of your partner, alternating it with a stiff toothbrush.

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Angela and I had finished our breakfast and simply stood up without further words being spoken between us. Angela’s step being slightly peppier than mine as if the morning had lifted her spirit to the point that she seemed to be floating on air. Angela seeming almost like Ioana’s sister in the youthful charm she still possessed in so much abundance. Angela also seeming adorable in her long brown boots and white pantyhose and simple green dress which though clearly not elegant like those she downed at the opera still gave her the appearance of one who was well dressed. I, for my part wearing a black suit which in a way gave me the appearance of being her body guard. It also being my physical size which leant itself to this impression yet I don’t think it was something she really minded given what our real relationship was and the fact that some less desirable grabs and attentions by some of her more aggressive fans might be dissuaded merely by my presence.

Angela and I were ready to go to the opera as we had all which we needed. Angela feeling the radiance she showed as we walked over to the car which would be talking us. This being the car which was sent to pick us up every morning to take us to the opera which also made it much easier for us to arrive on time. It however was in the elevator that Angela gave me a look, I know well that she had forgotten something. This getting my attention as I gazed upon her waiting for her to tell me what her mind had for me. “Michael, please one thing more. Call my daughter today. I almost forget this is her business card (Angela taking it out of her purse with surprising ease). It is not that she is spoilt but she is very sensitive to this kind of thing and really would like you to call her to start her training.”. Angela seeming as if she had forgotten her fears that ours might turn to something other or perhaps she just felt that she had already made her point abundantly clear. I being in a hurry really did not consider my reply or even have anything other to say which I hadn’t already. This making me take Ioana’s card which I put away in my jacket pocket (along with the one Ioana herself had given me) as I said “Sure, I will call her today!” as I glanced at my Angela to reassure her that my intensions were sincere. Angela then saying “multomesh” as if she had gotten an urge yet it being circumstances which limited it to just taking my hand in gratitude.

The elevator stopped at the ground floor and just as we exited Angela looked at me and in a most casual way asked me to get her a pack of chewing gum. It being her wish to have fresh breath or at least such did she claim. Angela telling me she would wait for me in the car while I got it. Angela also mentioning that she wished to check the messages on the phone in some privacy yet this for the most part did not concern me. I however being the ever faithful servant went over to the place in the hotel where one could get such things as I saw her walk out off the hotel.

Calmly I walked over to the newsstand to give Angela perhaps a minute or two that I noticed perhaps for the first time how there was always sexuality about us. This regardless of what we did or said or what shape our relationship took. This alternating constantly from friendly to total formality in front of others yet ours was one in which the desires of the flesh were always lurking about. It seeming as we were just waiting for the opportunity yet we did play our roles well for the all to see and even felt comfortable in them as if all were but planned moments designed to build up desire. I could even declare with some assertiveness that all was perfection in the manner I had always thought a relationship could and should be. Of course, Angela Gheorghiu was married yet this did not seem to interfere with anything concerning the two of us. As for our absences from each other’s society, they only served to fill those moments we did spend together with further appreciation. As they were never sure to return yet in all we felt time would always provide them for our delight.

I went to the newsstand at the hotel yet my ideas of the moment focused on Angela and perhaps it was an instinct or simply desire to see her tenderness yet regardless of which; I did have an urge imposed on myself to return to her as soon as my walking could get me. It was as I went outside the hotel however that I saw that Angela was being surrounded by two men who had somehow managed to cut her off. Angela being clearly disturbed and shaken to the core. Angela having a look of fear about her as her perhaps fans or those from magazines wished her for an interview she was unwilling to grant. It regardless of which made no difference as I rushed over to where the situation was taking place near the corner.

It did seem longer yet it could not have taken me more than a few seconds to dash over to where Angela was. I not wishing to proceed with violence where perhaps it was not required yet did see the need to react and be ready for what ever this situation may require of me. It being eventualities like this one which I had spent so much time preparing for which might just as easily be an attempted kidnap or perhaps just a fan who had become too anxious to obtain more than the standard autograph.

I slowed down as I approached the place where Angela was being attacked. It being most important for both Angela and her perhaps attackers to see me. Angela so that she might be aware that there was somebody who was their to safeguard her interests. This while those who perturbed Angela’s peace would feel that there was somebody else they would have to contend with. As I got closer I noticed that neither one of these men were particularly large in size but experience had taught me that one could hardly judge danger based on physical size.

Angela saw me and once again took certain courage as she had been leaning against the wall as if trying to go in to it in order to escape. Angela standing up and repeating the words “no, no, no” several times. This while the man who was furthest from me said in a rather agitated voice which tried to intimidate “Why don’t you just pose nude for our magazine, we are willing to pay well and beside that’s what most of your fans want anyway!”. Angela upon seeing me stood up straight and as if encouraged by my being so close as to be able to jump in at any moment; simply stepped up to one and screamed “I said no now get away!” and pushed one with both arms.

It being at that precise moments that my course of action had been dictated as the man Angela had pushed was about to strike back at her or perhaps just push her in the same fashion. It being my reaction to take this man’s arm as he raised it and get him to the floor with the help of a simple leverage move. This man being neutralized while the other man tried to help him yet by rushing me. This man also being easy to take care of as I let go of the first man and simply managed to take the second down with another basic judo move.

The fight if such can be called had lasted but a few seconds and as I looked at Angela she seemed to be most impressed among her anxieties as she stared at me holding one of the men down while the other held his arm in pain after having been held by my grip. “Now, gentlemen why don’t you do as the lady says and leave. It should be more than apparent that what ever it is you are offering she is not interested in.”. This being the tactic of remaining calm and speaking slowly in a way that almost accentuated each one of my words which not only made me sound more serious but made my message all the more clear.

These two men had been beaten though this did not mean they would necessarily give up in their intensions yet they fortunately realized that there was nothing to be done at present. It being the first one who said “Ok, ok, were going but you will hear from us again as they got up and walked away.”. Angela seeming as if she had something to say to them but thought better of it.

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Nocturnal emission is a health condition characterized by ejaculation of semen during sleep. Night emission or nightfall occurs usually during teenage and early adult years. It is also well known as night discharge, wet dream or orgasm during sleep. Normal semen release during sleeping hours is quite natural and will not do any harm to person. If there is frequent nightfall problem, then it should be immediately consulted with your health practitioner. Reasons leading to the formation of night emissions can be either physical or emotional. Both of the reasons play equally important roles in causing nightfall troubles.

It can be described as a natural way to release sexual tension. Exceeding the sperm collection beyond maximum limit is one among the main reasons contributing for night emissions. It is because a man needs to ejaculate from time to time even when he is not sexually active. As per studies, it is found that person ejaculating more during usual sex will experience less rate of nocturnal emission in his sleep. Nocturnal emission occurring during sleeping hours can be caused with or without erection. Teens may experience as little as two erections or up to six erection each night.

Dream occurring during rapid eye movement of sleep is an important reason for nocturnal emissions. Time interval of erotic dreams also varies from person to person. It may range from a few seconds time period up to hours. Physical stimulation of genital organs by soft blankets or pillows is a common reason reported for the occurrence of nightfall. External stimulation of blankets together with erotic dreams leads way to night emissions in sleep. Patients with chronic nightfall or night emission are advised to avoid reading books related with sexual content. It reduces the occurrence of erotic dreams during sleep and prevents nocturnal emission.

Wearing tight clothes during sleep is a main reason behind the formation of night emissions. It may rub your skin and cause irritation. Tight clothes act as an external stimulation for genital organ and increase the risk of nocturnal emission. It may push up the genitals against the body and can cause pain. Damaging the cells of testicles and infertility are other disadvantages of using tight clothes while sleeping.

Staying in touch with sexual thought is a common reported reason for nocturnal emissions. Several factors play key roles in the formation of nightfall due to sexual thoughts. Viewing sex related pictures and reading magazines with adult contents are some among the main factors contributing for the formation of sexual thoughts. People suffering from frequent nocturnal emission are advised to stay away from sexual thoughts and activities. Practicing meditation and deep breathing exercises of yoga are effective natural techniques to stay away from bad thoughts. It helps in controlling your body and mind with no adverse actions. Sleeping with full bladder is another reason contributing for night emission problems. This usually arise the condition of night emission with erection. In order to prevent this condition, patients suffering from nocturnal emission are advised to urinate before going to bed.

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We hear the word kinky on a regular basis, mostly in jokes and innuedos, as a way of describing something sexually odd.  The reality is that there is no set definition for what “kinky” is.  Kinky (kink)is defined as a sexual practice hat maybe considered taboo or cantradictory to societal norms.  As a result indivduals from different cultures backgrounds, and upbringings have a different idea of what kinky is..  For some individuals, it is anything in the bedroom that goes beyond plain vanilla sex.  Some people think of sex, as well… just sex.  Adding anything to it, makes it kinky.  THat includes anything from a basic role playing to some mild fuzzy handcuffs.  If it isn’t two people and a bed, it is kinky.  On the other extreme of it, are those who hear the word and think “gag me, tie me, and spank me”.  This sexual interest is known as bondage, or bdsm.  It is generally characterized by whips, chains, restraints, gags and other sex toys.  While these interests may come of as odd, for some it is a lifestyle; the BDSM lifestyle.

BDSM is disected as; bondage, sadism, and masochism.  On the surface they may seem to be a unique grouping of fetishes, however they are a very itracit close knit  fabric that, among its community, is beauty in and of its self. A fetish is defined as a habitual erotic response to any object or non genital part of the body.  We all have arousals that arise for reasons aside from simple emotional attraction.  Some may experience a heightend sense of arousal from a certain style of lingerie or a dirty talk.  This is no different in the psyche than one who engages in the bdsm lifestyle.

The core dynamic of the BDSM lifestyle is the roles of master and servant.  These rules rules which date thousands of years have always elicited a feeling of taboo.  In general most individuals assume a sexual role as a Domme or a Sub.  A Domme is more so a guide than who leads the sub on adventure of challenges through their mind and actions.  These adventures may be physically or emotionally gratifying. As odd as this may sound much of the BDSM lifestyle is about mental aspect of dominate.  Anyone can learn to put aside physical pain and withstand it, however when we deal with the mental aspect we grow as a person.

Very often in our life we are forced to portray the roles society lies for us, but the BDSM lifestyle changes that and gives us a way to escape.  For example men who are generally preessured to take charge, can give up control.  Although this may be hard for them to do as a result of gender roles, the BDSM lifestyle encourages and and reward the behavior.  The rewarding is also twofold for a Domme.  The control elements at hand of the Domme may not be experienced outside of the BDSM setting.  Also when the Sub has a breakthrough it is rewarding for the Domme, and satisfaction can be taken in knowing they were had a presence in the mental growth of another individual.

With the mental aspect being important, the bdsm setting is significant.  Most individuals in the lifestlye create a dungeon for their use or have access to an erotic club with a dungeon for use.  The dungeon is the setting for for the Domme roles and the challeneges the Sub must overcome.  With the BDSM lifestyle being primarily about challenges the dungeon setting represents those challenge situation faced in the real world.  It is important that this dungeon allows the sub to have free zone.  A place where it is okay show their vulernability without fear of scrutiny. With the dungeon will come with the use many sex toys and accessories.  The average dungeon will include such things as a sex whips, ropes, chains, floggers, and lesbian sex toys such as stap-on dildos.

There will always be people who cannot comprehend the BDSM lifestyle cannot get it passed that the lifestyle isn’t about kinks, fetishes or sex but rather mental growth.  It is sad that the lifestyle is often misunderstood and discredited as some form of sexual deviation. The reality is that it is about trust, respect and growth between two people.

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Motivations
A man may wear a cock ring because he has erectile dysfunction (ED), erectile hyperfunction, or otherwise wants to prolong erection because he likes the particular sensation of tightness and extreme engorgement that wearing one provides. It can be worn as a sex toy, as jewelry, or simply for the appearance. When used for ED, a vacuum pump is used to produce an erection in spite of vascular or nerve damage, and the ring slid off the pump’s cylinder onto the base of the penis to maintain the erection.
Some men enjoy using cock rings for masturbation, as wearing of this sex toy contributes to better erection and delays orgasm, thus it intensifies orgasmic sensations. Also vibrating cock rings deliver a great range of very pleasurable vibrations that enhance enjoyment.
Variations
A brass cock ring in place around both the penis (that has a frenum piercing) and scrotum.
Some models include a protruding clitoral stimulator, designed to tickle the clitoris, vulva, or anus during sex. Others, such as the Vibrating ring, vibrate, either vibrating the ring itself, or in a popular ‘Dolphin’ variant using two removable bullet vibrators to provide stimulation to the testicles and clitoris. Some cock rings have vibrators attached that can be worn to stimulate the scrotum or perineum or a partner during sexual intercourse. Many women find that rings with vibrator attachments provide clitoral stimulation that is needed for achieving orgasm. Cock ring users should keep in mind that any pain, discomfort, or feeling of coldness in genitals is a signal to take the cock ring off.
Another variation is an inflatable cock ring for added control of adjustment.
A triple cock ring or triple crown is a cock ring that has additional rings for restraining the testicles. In orgasm, the testicles usually retract towards the body before ejaculation. A triple crown changes and intensifies the sensation of orgasm by forcing the testicles to stay away from the body.
Risks
Vendors of cock rings always indicate that cock rings are not to be worn for more than 20-30 minutes. Falling asleep or using illicit drugs at the same time is very dangerous. The first sign of pending problems are when the penis starts to become numb or white. As soon as this happens, the cock ring must be removed.
To ensure that cock rings easily come off, the latest cock rings have quick release mechanisms so one does not have to struggle with pulling the rubber ring from the base of the penis. Cock rings should not be used by individuals whom are on blood thinning medications, diabetics, those who have heart disease or sickle-cell disease. Other problems with cock rings are that many do slip off or get caught in pubic hair. Some can cause severe tightening of the scrotum which is not a pleasant feeling. Cock rings are best used with some type of personal lubricant.
Medical issues
Cock rings that are too tight, or worn for too long can be dangerous: this may cause priapism, a medical emergency that, if not treated promptly, can result in severe and permanent damage, including penile gangrene that can result in the destruction and possible amputation of the penis. Rings for erectile dysfunction are invariably supplied with the instruction that they should not be left on for more than thirty minutes. Falling asleep with a ring on is a particular danger. This may lead to temporary or permanent nerve damage. Numbness in the glans penis, penis becoming cold or penis becoming white may be signs that a cock ring has been worn for too long and medical advice should be sought.
Elastic, stretchy, cock rings are removed by stretching them and pulling them off the penis, over the head, which can be difficult. Others have a quick-release mechanism allowing them to be easily removed without the need to do this. Some (not for erectile dysfunction) are designed to allow limited blood return, such as by hard beads that cause the ring to roll back and forth during use, increasing circulation.
When used for extreme or total erectile dysfunction, it must be possible to fit the ring onto the erect penis immediately after an erection has been produced by the pump; this practically mandates the use of very flexible rings that can be fitted on the outside of the pump’s cylinder, and slid onto the penis without removing it from the cylinder when erection has been maintained.
Cock rings must not be used by those who have cardiovascular problems, diabetics or those who take any blood-thinning medications.
Materials and types
Cock rings are made from many materials including leather, rubber, silicon, nylon, metal and even plastic. Many of the newer rings also have different accessories and projections. There are also vibrating cock rings available which can stimulate the testes at the same time.
Today, cock rings can be bought with accessories that stimulate the clitoris or anal area during intercourse. Other cocks rings go around the scrotum and can significantly enhance erection and intensity of orgasms.
However, there is one negative; the more accessories that are added on, the greater the chance of developing discomfort or cold sensations from the device. There is specialized underwear which come with pre-fitted cock rings. The underwear has a pouch with a C ring which either slides along the penis or encircles the scrotum. As one walks, the C ring enhances the erogenous zone.
Specialized underwear
Underwear, similar to this front stitched men’s thong, can have built-in cock rings, companies such as California Muscle specialize in the products.
Some underwear for men features a pouch with an internal fabric/elastic cock ring, or “c-ring”, that either slides along the penis and encircles the base of the testicles or, alternately, simply snaps around the base of the testicles to snugly–but not in a constricting way–attach the pouch to the genitals. While this type of pouch permits the wearer to “go backless,” c-ring pouches can be attached to either a thong or traditional jockstrap.
See also
Arab strap
Bondage cuffs
Cock and ball torture
Earring Magic Ken, slangily referred to as “Cock-ring Ken” as his necklace resembled the necklaces – a leather strap with cockring – favored by some gay men
Humbler (BDSM)
Sex toy
Testicle cuff
Elastration
Geier Hitch
References
^ Considering cock rings Retrieved on 2010-03-03
^ Penis rings: What to do Retrieved on 2010-03-03
^ Questions and answers on cock rings Retrieved on 2010-03-03
^ How to put on a cock ring Retrieved on 2010-03-03
External links
Cock Rings 101
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Whether you are a newcomer to the D/s lifestyle, or an old pro who has been tying knots and administering punishments for years, there are a few guidelines that are good to remember. They will keep both your partner and you safe, and help make certain that each time is as enjoyable and earth shatteringly wonderful as the next.

When ‘Stop’ Doesn’t Cut It

In an intense moment of arousal and passion, your partner may utter the words ‘don’t', ‘stop’, or ‘no, but these could easily be part of the play. Perhaps you both are acting out some naughty fantasy, wherein the ‘victim’ is trying to get your character to stop what they’re doing, even if your lover doesn’t want you to stop. This is why a safeword is an invaluable tool. It should be something out of the ordinary that isn’t likely to come up during the course of your play. ‘Banana soup’ is silly, but how often will that be spoken aloud when things are hot and heavy? Another option is to use ‘Green, yellow, red’. Green indicates things are good, yellow says, It’s good, but don’t go any further than that’ and red? ‘Stop immediately’. By paying attention for the safeword, you can protect yourself and your partner, ensuring that the fun stays that way.

Restraints and Gags

Tying down your lover can be one of the most delicious and erotic things you can do, assuming you follow it up with equally tantalizing torment. But don’t skimp on the gear by buying the cheap stuff sold at your average sex shops. Go for the good stuff at professional BDSM supply stores (there are several reputable ones on the Internet). Not only will dedicated vendors have a wider selection, but also the quality of their stock will be far superior. When it comes to specific types of restraints, some adventurous souls tend to prefer silk scarves. But items like that, or stockings tend to knot up very tightly, making them all but impossible to remove safely. If you insist on using them, a pair of scissors could prove extremely useful. Then, for those who enjoy a bit of police play, or just simply like the pragmatic approach of handcuffs, be sure to get your hands on the same grade of cuffs that the police uses. These won’t tighten or constrict further after being put on, like the cheap imitations at most sex stores.

With restraint and restriction of any kind, you should always be wary of cutting off circulation. If your partner’s hands or feet feel cold, or they complain of tingling or numbness, reposition them to alleviate the stress. Pain and discomfort may be part and parcel for some people, but only when it is intentional. Gags can also be fun, whether it’s an o-ring gag for a bit of forced oral, or a ball gag to stifle your partner’s cries of feigned anguish. Bear in mind that when gagged, your partner can’t speak the safeword, so another signal should be thought up beforehand, if you’re going to go this route, be it a hand gesture, ringing of a bell that’s close by, or pretty much anything you can think of. Last but not least, make certain your partner has an open airway. If you gag him or her, make certain his or her nose isn’t covered.

Rubber or Plastic Sheets

Food play, sperm play, oil wrestling any sort of fun you can have in the bedroom that by its nature tends to make a huge mess necessitates special sheeting. Quality BDSM suppliers will have sheets in various sizes you can put over your bed to protect it. Afterwards, just peel it off, give it a good scrubbing or wash and you’re good to go for the next time.

These are modest but important tips for play that anyone can use, and everyone who cares about their partner ‘should’ use in order to prolong the enjoyment for both parties. With forethought, common sense and due diligence, you can continue to crack that flogger, drip that wax or tease your partner to sensual delirium for years and years.

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